“You’ll never amount to anything!”
“I wish I never had you.”
“Why do you have to be so different? Can’t you be just like everyone else?”
Do any of these sound familiar?
Statements like these are heard every single day and not only by children who live in abusive homes. Even adults face situations like this. Maybe you’ve been told this by someone other than a parent or family member. Maybe it’s a spouse, a co-worker, a friend, etc. Regardless of where it’s coming from, words can hurt! And, when we’re consistently told these things, you may even begin to believe it just like I did. It hung over me like a dark cloud and hovered over for years until I was set free. And, in looking back, the pain that I was experiencing was also one of the causes of my emotional eating. Pretty wild to think that the two would be connected but it’s true.
The truth though my friend is this…those words are ALL lies! I wish someone would have sat me down and shared this with me, maybe life would have been different.
But here’s the thing…no matter what has happened in the past, I can’t change it and I can’t change who might have said it to me. The same applies to you. What we do have control over is choosing to move forward and putting the past behind us, even if it means setting boundaries.
- You were designed for good things. God doesn’t make losers!
- You were designed to be YOU and not a copy cat of anyone else. It’s okay to be different and it’s okay to stand out from the crowd.
- You aren’t stupid! You already amount to to “something” and so much more!
- Even if you don’t feel like it, you are loved and wanted. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone to make that happen.
I want you to know that it’s possible to overcome the lies you have been told and that living your best life is within reach. I’m proof that you can have a troubled past and move forward. We get one life. Let’s make the most of it! Let’s forgive and let’s be our best selves possible.