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I was sitting down one morning and came across a Success Tip from one of my favorite author’s Brian Morgan, who wrote the 12 Week Year in my email inbox.  In it, he talked about “have to’s.”  Have to’s are those things that we don’t want to do but we do anyway because we have to.  As he continued on in his email, he explained that these have to’s, aren’t really things that we have to do.  They are choices.  I can’t help but agree.

As I reflect back on life, looking at my career, the area I live, my weight/health, all of those things are something that I can control.  At any given time, I have had the opportunity to change things.  I didn’t have to stay where I was employed.  I could look for a new job.  I didn’t have to live where I live.  I could relocate.  I didn’t have to stay overweight.  I could change the way I ate and add in exercise.  All of the things that I mentioned above, I am proud to say I did.  Was it easy?  Heck no!  There were times I had really evaluate if I was willing to give up something for what I truly wanted later.  I had to take a change on me and n the end, it worked out and was worth it.

You see, when those have to’s become a burden and you dread going into work, you want to be with the one you love who has moved out of state or you get tired of trying to find clothes in your closet that no longer fit, you have the chance to make a change. (These were mine.)  It’s up to you to make that decision.  Is it worth it?  Will it make you happy and allow you to live more of the life you desire?

Because this is you making the decision to change and it not being a “have to,” you have total control over that energy that surrounds you.  You have the choice that only you can make.  It allows you to begin to focus on those things that can make it happen and then eventually it does.  You get rid of the excuses and the negativity that surrounds that situation.  How cool is that!?!

So go ahead and quit if you need to.  When you remember that you can control your choices, you control your life.  Change your thinking from what I have to do to what am I’m willing to do and watch your life change.

You can learn more about The 12 Week Year here.



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