I normally don’t start a post like this but let me go ahead and just do it…
When I sat down and started to type, I had an agenda of what I wanted to write about but my mind kept going back to a conversation that I had earlier in the day and something else took shape.
You see, I had planned to write about vacations and eating healthy and how eating in moderation was totally okay. But then, before I began to write out this post, a friend reached out about a conflict that just came about.
She was facing an uncomfortable situation, feeling guilty and needed a little advice. And, well…that’s my strong suit as a Healthy Body, Mind & Life Coach. I LOVE helping others find solutions to help them move past their roadblocks. And, feeling guilty and being uncomfortable can be a MAJOR roadblock. I know first hand how that can derail you from reaching goals or just moving forward in life.
Before I really begin, let me share this with you…I HATE conflict and I’ve suffered from guilt because I felt I did or said the wrong things.
Really, I have. I’m a people pleaser. I like making others happy.
And, I believe that most folks like to please others too.
I don’t know of too many people that enjoy conflict but I do know that there are folks out there who do. I’ve run into them before. They seem to always draw that negative energy to them and then feed off of it. NO thanks! I’ll pass on that!!!
Most folks don’t like that uncomfortable feeling that comes along with doing something wrong, upsetting someone, etc. It just feels gross and depending on what really went on, it can linger which makes it even worse. UGH! Have you ever tried to go to sleep at night and all you can do is think of what happened? You’re second guessing your actions. We all have!
Here’s the thing…sometimes what we need is simply to talk those feelings out. We need to run those feelings past someone who is unbiased and can give us reassurance that what we said and what we did was exactly the right thing to do. And, sometimes, we need the hard truth to learn that what we said/did was totally not okay!
No matter where you’re at in life, having someone to confide in is so important. It can be a friend, a family member, a preacher/priest, a mentor or a coach.
My advice to you…find a person that you can trust and talk with. Tell them what’s going on and allow them to be your sounding board. It truly can make a difference in not only your life but in that of those you care about. Don’t let your thoughts eat you up. No matter if your conflict is internal or external, talking thru it, can be an AMAZING experience to help you grow. And, once it’s off your chest, you’ll be set free.
Have you dealt with conflict? What’s the best advice you’ve been given? Let me know in the comments below.
Our community is full of folks looking for healthier ways to live. Something you share might just impact them to make a change to move forward.
As always, thank you for reading, sharing and just being you!
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