6 Tips To Help You Get Out Of A Funk
By Laura Kelly-Pifer
This past week, I asked in our Community, what the word “healthy” means. I must admit that I was excited to see a lot of folks comment that it was overall wellness and that to have a healthy mind was just important as having a healthy body. I too, feel the same way.
You see, our minds, are so powerful. The things we think become the things that we do, say and feel. A recent exercise that I completed over the last few weeks in a course I’m taking, asked that I listen and jot down ten examples of statements I heard others saying. I’m going to share those with you.
1. I can’t do anything right. Every time I turn around, I’m doing it wrong again.
2. I’ll never have enough money to buy the things I need.
3. I’m never going to lose weight. I was destined to be fat.
4. It’s the only choice I have. I’m too old to find someone else to love me.
5. I’m always going to be sick.
6. I could never work at home like you do. I’m not smart enough to run my own business.
7. I feel guilty because other moms get to stay at home and I can’t.
8. xxxx is so lucky and I’m not.
9. I was meant to live a life of poverty.
10. I’ll never catch a break.
How does reading those make you feel? Pretty yucky, right!?! If we’re constantly saying or thinking things like those mentioned above, we eventually believe them.
So, here’s a confession. One of those was mine. We all have periods of self doubt and if we don’t learn to let it go, it can turn into a lifetime (or long period) of pain and suffering. We’re human and it happens. I speak from experience when I say that I spoke unlovingly about myself for a number of years. It was when I decided that my inside was just as important as my outside that my life began to turn around.
So, you’re probably wondering what I did to make that change and become the happy, peppy girl I am. Here is some of what I did…
- I decided that “I’m worth it!” Each day, I give myself some “me” time. Some days, it’s a simple cup of coffee out on the back deck or arriving 5 minutes early to soccer practice and just playing a game on my iPhone. Other times, it might be a night out with the girls.
- While I work, I listen to uplifting music, sermons, or other type of positive messages that will keep my spirits up during the day.
- I’ve set boundaries. I’ve had a variety of toxic people in my life. I’ve chosen that in order to stay positive, I don’t communicate with them as often. It doesn’t mean that I don’t care or love them, it just means that I’ve decided that to stay happy, I can love them from a distance.
- I learned to say “No.” Okay, that was a tough one for me. I like to be in control, I like to do everything and be everything to everyone and while it worked for a bit, it eventually made my life miserable and started to affect my husband and girls. I decided to really evaluate what things were important to me and my family. Gone are the days of trying to people please.
- I speak lovingly about myself. Remember how I mentioned that one of those statements above was mine? Well, when I noticed what I said, I forgave myself. I admitted that I was human and mistakes happen. Part of that was just admitting that it was okay to not be perfect.
- I decided to lift others up. When you begin living a life of supporting others, through your words and actions, it begins to rub off on you too. Pretty cool, huh!?!
When we begin to align our inside work and our outside work together, we begin to see some amazing changes. If need be, take it minute by minute until it becomes more and more consistent. Living a positive and healthy life is within reach. You can do it! I believe in you!
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Looking for more mindset tools and tips? We talk about these kinds of things in The Empowered Women’s Community. The good things, the bad things and we support each other and encourage each other no matter what. It would be an honor to have you join us and share in the conversation. I hope to see you there!
Laura Kelly-Pifer is a Fitness Coach who strives to help others by giving hope and support to those that are dissatisfied with their current situation. Whether you are lacking physically, emotionally, financially, or nutritionally she is here to help you see REAL RESULTS!